Patience and Moderation

Scan of the original 1939 Keep Calm and Carry On poster, UK

“Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words will never harm me.”  Anon.

“Remember no one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” Eleanor Roosevelt.

“A wise man is superior to any insults which can be put unto him, and the best reply to unseemly behaviour is patience and moderation” Moliere.  Added.

Words have the power to lift our spirits, yet many have been hurt by harsh words spoken.

Interestingly, the old adage “Sticks and stones” counsels calm, instead anger and resentment.  After all, most of the time, we need not feel hurt.  A few reasons why this is true:

Firstly, we may not want to react excessively to any unimportant non-repetitive situation.

Second, the offender’s bad attitude frequently reflects more on himself.

Third, the object often is to provoke a reaction. When there is none, the harassment stops and moves on.

Lastly, perhaps the aggressor is actually in pain, and requires help/medical attention.

On occasion, keeping a cool head and managing the situation well, can turn a “nasty” incident around.  By handling matters appropriately, a reputation for dependability, admiration and/or even friendship may be won.

Words, Part 1

Your Career – Love it or Hate it?

I knew of someone who was plagued with doubts about her choice of career. She thought the job was administrative, boring, tedious etc. There were a hundred things she didn’t like.

Chance Encounter

One day, she chanced upon a reality series featuring occupations. Two celebrities were tasked to a day’s work in a new and different occupation each episode.  One a “difficult” job e.g. construction work, and the other “nicer” work e.g. engineering and audit. The celebrities got to immerse themselves in the daily “grind”.

The series was hilariously funny, yet meaningful in a touching way: reactions range from relief to horror as job duties are explained. Shock, joy, fear, disgust.  An example was a job to rescue strays of the street.  Reactions range from “I love dogs!” to “ew, tons of dog poo to be clean daily?!”. Bloopers or even outright fatigue through the day.  The light-hearted jibes with their “work buddy”, and the end of day interviews on what their buddies love or find challenging about the job.



After several episodes, a realisation struck: she wouldn’t be caught dead in any of the occupations in the series, even the “nicer” jobs and professions. Either there were daily safety concerns, pay was poor, uncertain (sales based), odd working hours, uncomfortable working conditions, smell, heat, dust, true tediousness etc or all of the above. The beautiful in her own career/daily work became evident.

The series changed her life. She not only grew to appreciate her job, but also daily services previously taken for granted e.g. the underground. The effort and sacrifice other people make daily to keep the things like clockwork was now apparent.  This is a true story!


There is always something to dislike in an occupation.  Every job has its “tediousness”. But each job also has its merits and exciting opportunities, though one has to strive for it.  Striving may mean doing constant skills upgrading, critical to qualify for more varied and interesting roles or higher pay. To remain relevant / maintain an lifelong learning habit.

Or simply staying determined to produce high quality work each time, regardless how difficult or unfavourable the short term circumstances are!

Everyone has a different job preference.  What do you like and dislike about your jobs?

Image Credit: Unsplash, Stephan Geyer

Needs vs Wants

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The Simple Life:  Woman Reading.

“Money has never made man happy, nor will it, there is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more of it one has the more one wants.” Benjamin Franklin.

“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Epictetus.

“Happiness is there where wants and needs are small, but the desire to give is big.”  Debasish Mridha.

“When we confuse the needs with the desires; all the struggles we take lead to failure and disappointment.”  M.F. Moonzajer.

“I wish people could accomplish everything they want so they could learn its not everything they need.”   Orrin Woodward.