The Journey of Love

Some quotes for The Journey of Love:

“Our learning journey for Love begins with ourselves, the proximate.”

“Through accepting ourselves, both strengths and weaknesses, without under-estimating or over-reaching, we learn Humility and love of the Present.  Loving others, to grow, to succeed, is the extension.”

“Make time daily to nurture your physical, mental and emotional.”  Lailah Gifty Akita

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“You cannot serve from an empty vessel.” Eleanor Brownn

“He who seeks to share his Harvest, must not forget to tend his soil.”

“Awareness, acceptance and tenderness are the seeds from which Love sprouts.  There can be no true Love without awareness.  Good vibes without deep knowledge is only infatuation.”

Image Credit: Olessya

The Versatile Blogger Award

Fellow blogger Natajas (the owner of a beautiful blog, Her Arrow Points North) nominated me for the Versatile Blogger Award recently.  While Her Arrow Points North is a relative new fashion, outdoors and photography blog, it has already been nominated for two awards!  Adorned with the most beautiful pictures, Natajas is highly passionate about her writes, is accessible and her enthusiasm is inspiring.  Do check her blog out!

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“The Versatile Blogger Award is an award to celebrate the bloggers who bring the most joy to your life! The fellow bloggers that I’ve nominated are the ones that I look forward to seeing their posts, I love reading because they either teach me something new or make me laugh, have amazing photos that I just love to look at, and cover a wide variety of subjects”

The rules: 

Thank the person that has nominated you
Include a link to their blog
Nominate at least 15 blogs of your choice
Link your nominees and let them know of your nomination
Share seven different facts about yourself

My Nominations for Versatile Bloggers are 

In alphabetical order,

Franz (Somewhere beyond the Blue)
Lorrie Bowden (Lorrie Bowden)
Mansi & Urvashi (Twin Quill)
Marlyn Esconde (Kintai)
Mary Muema (Things We Never Say)
Mileslogic (Get Motivated)
My Silly World (My Silly World)
Ngobesing Romanus (Success Inspirer)
Rosaliene Bacchus (Three Worlds One Vision)
ShaheenDarr (Writing plus all things related by Shaheen Darr)
Skydreamer/Tingting (Empower Love)
StephJ (ScaleSimple)
Tan Nguyen (JuliusTyson)
Vincent Wambua (Vincent Wambua)
Violet & Meg (Violet’s Veg*n E-Comics)

Taking this opportunity to share some interesting blogs I have read before!  Everyone nominated is a winner: the prize is in the publicity, and hopefully in feeling happy for the nomination!  I know you are all busy bloggers, so do put out your own nominations etc in your own time, and only if you want to…

For those who are missed here, I will be putting out more nominations for other awards the next few Saturdays, so do stay tuned!

About the Blogger (7 Facts)

Live in a modern cosmopolitan city founded on a diamond-shaped island.

Love the city’s gardenscape, cleanliness and order.  Crimes rates are very very low, and people of various races and religion live in harmony.

Have lived and worked overseas for a couple of years, as well as travelled for work and for leisure.

My opinion (of course open to new evidence) is both Love and Logos (Logic) are important keys to Life.

Through some simplification and focusing on the important, am freer to see the beauty of life, have more fun and to give back.

Am a moderate and realist. Believe there is good cause for reasonable optimism.

Love respectful and enlightening conversations, free from Ego.  To reap maximum learning and improvement.

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About the Blog.  Olibtom is created for shared discussion of the mysteries of life, in particular, how to have a meaningful and happy life.  The sections of the blog include Quotes, Poems, Movies, Story, Music, Humour and whatever is useful in conveying ideas or starting a discussion.

Ideas are shared by blogger and readers alike on to how to achieve meaning and happiness, through comprehensively highlighting common aspects, experiences, the relevant and the irrelevant, common fallacies and truths, issues and solutions, with experiential and scientific studies, where possible.  Posit that nice images and interesting video clips probably helps a little too.

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Emotions and Wants

Does Gratitude mean no negative emotions and no wants?

The Part 3 of “The How To’s of Daily Gratitude” clarifies another common Gratitude misconception.

Misconception 5. With Gratitude, I will never feel negative, anxious, sad etc and have no wants.

Actual: We all are human, not machines.  Having deep Gratitude means a substantial reduction in negativity, fear, anxiety, sadness etc and fewer unreasonable wants (excluding physiological change). The negative emotions may be still present, albeit in smaller and manageable amounts.

The Effect of Focus.  The reason for reduced negativity is when we focus our attention on things we are grateful for, we focus less on negative emotions  Focusing on amplifies feelings, focusing away reduces feelings.

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The Benefits of Good Experiences.  Just like when we take a measles etc jab when we were kids, the medical staff will get us to focus away momentarily to allay our fears, preventing us from jerking away and causing more (real) pain etc.  Some of us did not even know that the immunization was done, due to the focus away.  With that (good) experience, the next time we go for a jab, we tend to have much less fear, hence can manage better.  

Reaonable Emotional Experiences in Adverse Situations.  Similarly, if a kid had a bad emotional experience with a immunization procedure, he or she will probably be more hysterical over the prospect of a tooth extraction!  Reaonable emotional experiences in adverse situations build emotional balance and strength.  Excessive emotions do not.

Same Girl at Age Five: Been there, Done that! (Just a Little Pain)

The Authentic Choice Few Choose!  Feeling less excessive emotions due to reduced focus also does not negate our authenticity, nor mean the emotion is not there.  It is just the wisdom and strength to focus on the important and good, to keep our negative emotions managed at a level that reduces paralysis, un-informed reaction, self or mutual self destruction.  

Like the illustrated situations, managing our excessive emotions gives a more meaningfully positive outcome, and give us emotional balance and perspective the next time we face difficulties.

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Negative Focus.  Focusing on the excessive negative emotions is similar to focusing on the Irrelevant in Misconception 2.  Feeling excessive emotions does not mean that Gratitude and Positivity is not present at all times. Rather, Gratitude may be either present in weak form, temporarily disabled etc, frequently due to focus but occasionally due to physiology. Due to focus mostly, the Negative overwhelms the Positive, even when the actual situation frequently requires little to no negativity.

Gentle Awareness.  With focus on the Relevant/Important Good, Gratitude and reasonable Positivity, the role negative feelings and wants mostly serve will be more as gentle awareness  and empathy (for many, steady and alert backseat passengers/traffic lights), rather than the emotional and distracted driver/panic button.  Reasonable positivity will be in the driving seat, and negative feelings or excessive wants will be less able to cause any unnecessary disaster.  8388294551_bd815cf446_b

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Undistracted, Alert Drivers and Passengers Means Less Accidents

Contentment, Purpose and Reasonable Wants. Similarly, grateful people will have reasonable, achievable, low cost wants, but not excessive ones, hence a lower resource drain (less taxing and more surplus), fewer wild-goose chases and a better chance of maintaining happiness.  Grateful people achieve/have a very achievable baseline contentment, with easy long term surplus/buffer.  The journey and/or achievement of purposeful and reasonable goals etc are bonus. 

Conclusion

With true Gratitude and the free choice to focus on blessings, there are emotions and wants, but the excessive are reduced.  (We exclude the discussion of physiological changes for now)

Negative emotions now play the role of empathy and extra awareness, and have lesser chance of wrecking havoc.

Finally, the reasonable emotional experiences that Gratitude promotes in adverse situations helps builds emotional balance/bank account and strength, and ultimately bolster us in future difficult situations!

Thank you for reading and/or sharing!

Media Credits:photo credit: More alive via photopin (license), Luckygirl314, Unsplash

Common Misconceptions Debunked in Previous Post

Misconception 1: Reason for Gratitude – I have no reason to be grateful
Misconception 2. Boredom – Grateful people lead boring monotonous lives
Misconception 3. Gratitude is a Feeling – Either, I feel it or I do not

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Misconception 4. Gratitude and contentment means we do not work for improvements, and are deaf to problems.

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For a Future Post:

Misconception 6:  I am grateful for this holiday, so I am going to maximize enjoyment through packing it with as many fun-filled activities and things as I can. 

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